A wedding is an emotional time for all of those Bridal mothers out there. And, believe it or not, the responsibilities are numerous. Chances are, you’ll be the first person your daughter (or son) will consult for all big decisions. You’ll also be the go-to shoulder to cry on if the pressures of planning a wedding get too difficult to handle. Here are some of the areas where you can lend a helping hand.
Planning the Seating List
Your experience will be much-appreciated for this, notoriously tricky aspect of planning the Big Day. So many things can go wrong with seating at a wedding, especially with regards to mismatched tables! The last thing you want is teetotaller cousin Timothy, fresh from a Buddhist retreat, to be seated next to Aunt Doris the Human Whiskey Sponge. Since you’re probably well acquainted with everyone on your side of the family, your knowledge will be a great asset.
Share Your Good Taste
If there’s one thing that age gives us, it’s impeccable taste in everything, from fashion to food! Your daughter will value your input with regards to a number of wedding details, such as the cake, wedding dress and décor. Remember, however, to contribute – not dominate! It’s not your wedding, at the end of the day, and you must be prepared to relinquish control to the people who are the stars of the show: the bride and the groom.
De-Stress the Bride
This is a great opportunity for you to bond with your daughter and remind her of the fun aspects of planning a wedding. Ease the pre-wedding jitters by taking her out for lunch, or spoiling her with an indulgent massage or mani-pedi. Listen to any issues she may have pertaining to the Big Day. Remember to be supportive, not judgemental, and to shower her with lots of love.
By sticking to these basic tips, planning the wedding will be fun and immensely rewarding. Simply remember to emphasise the enjoyable aspects of the whole affair. It is bound to be an important and bond-affirming experience for both your and the Bride.
By David Lange